Its so sickening reading stories of men who have raped women

It gets beyond sickening when you read stories of men who rape children

At what point, you as a human being, do you sit and take that decision that you will force yourself onto a woman or a child???

You lure a child into the bathroom and you force yourself onto her and luckily you get caught

I say luckily because had no one walked in while this man was busy molesting this child he wouldn’t have stopped or could have caused more damage than he has at the moment

A child, an innocent child who knows nothing at the age of six will not even understand the damage this stranger has done to her

A stranger who will get a minimum sentence of possibly three years and only serve six month because of a pathetic justice system that we live under

A stranger who could possibly see this child years later and have a smirk on his face as if to say I robbed you of your innocense

We are instructed not to circulate his photo on social media as it could cause his case not sticking in court

We are more worried about his case as opposed to what he has done to this innocent child

In a law perspective I trully understand that this man has not been charged or found guilty as his case has not been heard in court

As the saying goes: innocent till proven guilty

What if this perpatrator has means to leave the country and then his case will never be heard

We have heard too many stories of cases that have been left hanging because the culprits have fled the country

What if the perpetrator goes and rapes another child because he claims he was under the influence of drugs or whatever simply because we were protecting his court case

I will not even touch on the issue of race as that needs its own blog/article on its own as that too has stired up its own debates and now the counry is divided based on that

I wish and hope in the end that the one person who will end up suffering regardless of the outcome of this case will be the little girl

Her life matters more than that of this perpetrator in this instance as she currently knows nothing and unaware of what has happened to her or what will happen to her in the very near future

Very tricky situation before it even unfolds but would love to see the end to feed my own curiosity………..

Road tripping…………

One December my friends’ and I went on trip as we had to attend an event at one of my friends house

There we four us, 3 gentleman and as always I was the only female and yes I wasnt one of the designated drivers

We were scheduled to leave at 18:00 and we only left at 20:00 and one would think I was the one who caused us to leave late but no it was one of my male friends

He is such a diva, and no he is not gay. He is one hundred percent heterosexual who is in touch with his feminine side (he would kill me if he ever read this)

He just had to have his hair cut, take a shower and pack his bag at 18:00. The same 18:00 we were meant to leave

So while he did that we decided to entertain ourselves by……… yep drinking and to punish him, we made him the designated driver

Finally he was done and half the bottles we had planned to consume while we were on our way were gone and we were loud and happy

We needed to pack our luggage in the car and there was this one box that just couldnt seem to fit

It had important merchandise in the form of bottles so we knew we couldnt leave it behind no matter what

Now since it wouldnt fit in the boot, there was one way we could get it there and it was to consume it

Now since two of our friends were the designated drivers, this meant it was left up to the two who would be sitting in the back seat to make use of this opportunity and we had more than enough time as the journey was about 10 hours

So we got in and placed the box on the middle seat and off we went

Half and hour after we had left we needed to pee and when the car stopped we were nearly half way out the car chasing to the bathroom to relieve ourselves

You would think we would learn our lesson and not consume anymore alcohol but nope we continued where we left off

Everytime we would want to stop, we were told that this is a few minutes we could not spare as we needed to get to our destination and had an extra two hours we needed to recover as we left late

Now do you think people who had aready consumed so much alcohol would be puing any attention to that…….oh no SIR😊

My friend, the one who made us leave late, decided he would take over the driving and believe you me when I say he drove bloody well

He kept his mouth shut and his eyes glued on the road and drove non-stop until we were 10 km away from his home-town, which was where we were going, and he told the owner of the car to drive the rest of the way

Now bare in mind, it was my first time going to visit my friend’s hometown and meeting his family and I couldnt even stand……..what an impression I was going to give

But heyyyy this was not my boyfriend so I had nothing to worry about right?????

And we finally arrived, as I opened the door……….did a bottle not roll out the car?????

I was soooo embarrassed and all this old lady who was opening the door to welcome me was just smiled and hugged me

I just prayed she couldnt smell my breath as it was as though I was a brewery

They showed me to my bedroom and I just dove inside the bed and all I managed to take off were my shoes

I woke up in the morning and I didnt recognise where I was and was scared to get out the room

I grabbed my phone and I had a number of missed calls and unread messages from my father and friends

My stress levels shot up and I started panicking thinking something must be wrong

I called my father and he just said he wanted to check if we had travelled safely

I am sure he knew exactly how I felt as he could hear from my groggy voice

My friend came to wake me up and all he did when he opened the door and he saw me was to laugh and hand me a glass of ice cold Coca Cola and told me to get out the bedroom and come meet his family

I put on my tracksuit pants and a large shirt, brushed my teeth and put on my glasses and braved the heat and the loud singing going on outside

I met his siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins and so forth and couldnt remember a single one’s name as I just couldnt focus

Mind you today is the day of the festivities and yes there will be more drinking taking place and I ended up missing out because I had been sick the whole day

Did my friend worry about me????? Hell no he was having the time of his life because he was home

I decided I need to cure myself and I knew exactly what to do but that depended on the availability of the product thats going to assist me with the journey to curing myself

Then I heard the most awesome sound ever and I knew the Lord had heard my prayers and my cure had arrived and was announcing itself

The meat had arrived and was dragged to the side of yard where it will be slaughtered

The older generation came and did their speeches and the youngsters began to slaughter the sheep

Young females were preparing to start cooking and I would notice a few of them had coffee mugs next to them and I knew what they were drinking was not as innocent as their faces

I didnt care if they didnt give me any to drink as I had had my fair share to last me the whole weekend and had the headache to show for it

I sat down and started helping with the chopping and I swear it must have taken me an hour to peel one carrot

I was so happy when my friend grabbed me out of that kitchen and shoved a plate of cooked intestines in my hand and told me to eat

As soon as I was done I saw him come to me with an ice cold beer and I knew my eyes would finally be opened and I too could start to enjoy the festivities

I danced and chatted the whole day and night away until I met who would end up to be my boyfriend but hey thats for another story

The next day we woke up and prepared for the journey back to our homes and everyone in the car was quiet

The journey back was not so joyful as we knew the following day we would be going back to work

I slept the whole way and woke up when I was at my doorstep and all I could do was dream about my trip and smile………❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Same old useless weekends

Its thursday and I am all excited about the weekend

The way I am so excited, you would swear there is something fruitful I will be doing

But no……its the same bloody thing that I do every weekend and will continue to do for more weekends to come

The calls start coming in as of Thursday morning to find out if tomorrow I will be coming to my usual hood

To hang out with the same people, to talk about the same ish we talk about (that doesnt add any value in my life if I may add), to drink the same thing we usually drink in the same spot or drinking hole that we normally meet

In fact when my friends do call, there isnt even a need to ask where we will meet, its a matter of what time are you going to be there

Alright eventually we meet all five of us and I am the only female and we are standing next to one of our cars, beer in hand and the jokes start and we are laughing non-stop

You would swear we are engaged in something thats life enriching……..

Nope we are either laughing at people who caused crap when they were drunk or gossiping about one another and reminiscing

We will do that until its time for one of us wants to go home and we debate who is the most sober of us to drive all of us home

Bare in mind, you drive us all home, that also means you need to pick us up the following morning or else we wont be able to get to our cars

Do you think the following day we will do anything different????? NOPE

We will do the same thing until the weekend is over

Each weekend I will repeat that, comes Monday I am wondering what did I do that is constructive………NOTHING

My one and only female friend has always said to me to: people that you encounter on a daily basis or the people you consider your friends, what value do they add in your life????

I still dont have an answer to the question especially when I spend my weekends like this

And its all up to me to leave my weekends as useless as they are or to make a change………..

I hope it was worth it!!!!

Does office romance survive or last or even worth it????

I am asking because it seems like in each job that I seem to get there is always office romance

Some are married and frankly couldnt careless about how their spouses feel (I am assuming)

The minute you approach a woman and you have a ring on your ring finger telling her how much you love her and are the man to love her forever, how sincere are you????

To the woman who is being approached by the married man and you can see the ring on his finger, but choose to ignore it and you hand him your number, what are your intentions???

Maybe its just to be friends I assume…..

Maybe its so that he can buy you things such as toiletries, to wine and dine you or maybe to buy you lingerie……..

How does he know your size, let alone your taste in lingerie??

You told him…….which is all and fair but are you not taunting him or insinuating that its ok for you to take it to another level???

Did you stop to consider that this person does have a ring on his finger and chances are there is a wife and maybe kids waiting for him at home

The money that he should be spending on building his home, he is now spending it on you…….

As the cheating husband, why did you go and raise your wife’s hopes that you love her and will be faithful to her and only her

Why didnt you leave her to be with a man who will promise those things and be there for her if you cant????

Did you ever stop to think that your wife too is more than capable of doing exactly what you are doing and she wont brag about it as you would

So in other words you will never know until she tells you or someone else who wants to hurt you as the husband

It even gets worse when you have another child outside the marriage, now this woman whom you call your wife must now accept this child because she loves you

What if she cant have children, have you now not said I dont care……. but hey it doesnt affect you so long as you had your two minute fun

You as a wife you go and have another child with a married man simply because your husband is not satisfying you anymore

How many lives are you ruining simply because you couldnt be faithful to the man you had said yes I do to doesnt satisfy you anymore

It gets even worse when the woman you were cheating with now wants more out of this such as commitment to the extent that she is willing to go and expose you because you see she has evidence

She doesnt like the fact that you have a family and are so inlove with your wife so she just has to ruin it by exposing the secret photos she was taking or heaven forbid she is pregnant and the DNA says its 99.9% that he/she is your husband’s child

Something which started off as innocent such as flirting could lead to bad endings

Is that office romance worth it because in the end the truth will eventually come out and ruin not only your reputation, possibly your marriage or better yet your career…….heaven forbid your life because there are deadly diseases that you failed to think for that during your moment of lust

But hey its a selfish decision you decided to take and now you will have to live with it taking down innocent people who had nothing to do with your moment of “fun”.

Precious lives

Children are meant to be loved and taken care of

At some point we all were a kid who either got that and sadly some didnt

Nonetheless we have all heard slogans such as children are meant to be seen and not harmed (or something like that)…… or save our children

I am sure there are more slogans to that effect and yet we still wake up to such stories

At what point are we as society are we going to stand up and fight to protect our children

Waking up to news that school kids were involved in a car accident on their way to school because of a taxi drive who couldn’t wait for a couple minutes for the green light then proceed with caution

The way the school transport got so smashed, one cant even expect to have any survivors

Imagine if there were 2 kids from one family who were involved in the accident

Imagine if one of those kids were an only child to a family who struggled to conceive

No one can ever predict when an accident will happen but we sure as hell can be cautious on the road so as to avoid causing one

Drivers who transport kids to school do you realise that you are carrying precious lives whom we would love to see grow

Do you realise how little time that child has had on this earth and has yet to experience life as it

Do you realise that you either taking away a child who could one day come up with a cure for AIDS that has yet to be found……

Handle with care…….

Those kids lives are worth it too…….