Oh Holy Man………

So I am dating a priest. I have no idea what on earth attracted me to him because everyone who knows me would tell you I am not the church type of person. Okay I suppose you don’t need to actually be the church going type in order to date a priest, or do I?

Anyway we are dating and we met in a rather unconventional way. I suppose now it’s acceptable…….We met on a dating site. What on earth was I even doing on dating site?????

I suppose I didn’t get the memo or I missed the chapter on dating when I started this thing called life. I have had a string of bad relationships and yes each and every single one of my exes hurt me when I realised it was time to part ways

Okay first I suffered and suffered and was told by a number of people to actually walk away before I eventually decided that, that particular relationship was not working

I was never one to just give up on a person, especially one I truly loved, that easily. So you can imagine how bruised or better yet torn my heart was and yet I have managed to once again fall in love

So he is a priest……wait before we got into that, what on earth was I doing on a dating site

A friend of mine suggested it to me and I was like ohhh hell no, I am not going to be one of those people who has to create a profile in order to find love

It wasn’t until she said, a number of her friends had actually found love on this particular site. One of her friends is actually engaged to a person she had met on a dating site

After I had been on the site for about 3 days, I became so annoyed with having to introduce myself and having these “hey beautiful”, or “hey sexy “messages left on my messages, I was ready to delete it

Then this one person left me a message which also said “Hey beautiful” message. For some reason I decided to respond and he just said to me chat later I am busy……….

On my mind I was like: you are not chatting with me later goodbye…..until later came and I received a “hey I am back message”.

Then I decided to check his profile. He had that clean but sexy look so he definitely caught my eye. I didn’t even read his profile I just saw his age and thought perfect range for me

Then we started talking and doing that rather uncomfortable small talk when we eventually decided to take it out of the chat room and we exchanged numbers

So he called and he has that rather scrumptious voice (I wonder if there is such a thing) and it just made me melt. He is so soft spoken and has so much respect I just thought okay this should be interesting as I am such a loud mouth and I speak my mind I hope he is ready for that.

Let’s just say by the time I put the phone down I needed a stiff drink just to calm my heart from beating so fast. I was officially taken by just his voice and mannerism.

Then I thought gosh I am so childish………and then my inner voice said SO WHAT!!!!!!!

The following day he called me again and he said he had something to tell me. Immediately my brain created scenarios, he is married, he is gay, he is in jail ohhhhh I started sweating. With a soft voice I then said yes and what’s that

He said he is a priest………and a lump on my throat formed immediately. I asked him what do you mean a priest as in you stand in front of a congregation, with a bible and preach??? He said yes……

There was silence from my side and I thought it was a joke or I must have been dreaming or something. Eventually I said “oh is that right….okay……okay that’s fine……okay”

He just laughed at me and told me that he doesn’t normally reveal that about himself  immediately because most females usually run after he has revealed that to them, so if I want to run then he is cool with that

I considered it at first and then I thought about my brother who had once suggested that I move away from dating the kind of guys I am usually attracted to

So now I have been given this opportunity and what will I do????? Yes I decide to give it a try and here I am dating a priest

I still had to find out if he would be willing to date an alcoholic……or has he even dated a person who consumed alcohol (a lot of alcohol) before

He just said, when the time was right then I would eventually stop……I assured him that he has a long wait if he is expecting that

To my surprise he said he doesn’t mind as he has found what has been looking for and the fact that I drink doesn’t bother him

I had to put this to the test of course and yes I did. He is still here and we are going strong…………..

Amen…….And Cheers

 

Quick message to my lover

I am not going to miss an opportunity to say what I want to say to you

You see I had missed it before and it made my life a living hell

I want to turn the tides this time round and make you understand something……..

When I said I love you……I meant it in every possible way

I didnt say it to keep you……

I didnt say it because my friend was saying it to someone else…..

I said it because I felt it……

You see, everytime you look at me and I look down on the ground, its an opportunity to tell my pounding heart to calm the F……down

Everytime you brush against me when you walk past me, there is a spark that goes down my spine and makes me jump for a split second

When I catch you stealing a look and you look down on your phone I get a warm fuzzy feeling and smile to myself

When I go to bed in the evening, you are the last thing on my mind

When I wake up in the morning, you are the first thing on my mind

You see, I even asked God to look after you everytime you wake up in the morning and go on with your day

I ask him to look after you not just for me but I will admit at times I become selfish and ask him to keep you for me

I pray that he keeps for your children

I pray that he keeps you for your family

I pray that he keeps you till all your dreams come true

This is a message from me to you

Have an awesome day my love…….

I hope it was worth it!!!!

Does office romance survive or last or even worth it????

I am asking because it seems like in each job that I seem to get there is always office romance

Some are married and frankly couldnt careless about how their spouses feel (I am assuming)

The minute you approach a woman and you have a ring on your ring finger telling her how much you love her and are the man to love her forever, how sincere are you????

To the woman who is being approached by the married man and you can see the ring on his finger, but choose to ignore it and you hand him your number, what are your intentions???

Maybe its just to be friends I assume…..

Maybe its so that he can buy you things such as toiletries, to wine and dine you or maybe to buy you lingerie……..

How does he know your size, let alone your taste in lingerie??

You told him…….which is all and fair but are you not taunting him or insinuating that its ok for you to take it to another level???

Did you stop to consider that this person does have a ring on his finger and chances are there is a wife and maybe kids waiting for him at home

The money that he should be spending on building his home, he is now spending it on you…….

As the cheating husband, why did you go and raise your wife’s hopes that you love her and will be faithful to her and only her

Why didnt you leave her to be with a man who will promise those things and be there for her if you cant????

Did you ever stop to think that your wife too is more than capable of doing exactly what you are doing and she wont brag about it as you would

So in other words you will never know until she tells you or someone else who wants to hurt you as the husband

It even gets worse when you have another child outside the marriage, now this woman whom you call your wife must now accept this child because she loves you

What if she cant have children, have you now not said I dont care……. but hey it doesnt affect you so long as you had your two minute fun

You as a wife you go and have another child with a married man simply because your husband is not satisfying you anymore

How many lives are you ruining simply because you couldnt be faithful to the man you had said yes I do to doesnt satisfy you anymore

It gets even worse when the woman you were cheating with now wants more out of this such as commitment to the extent that she is willing to go and expose you because you see she has evidence

She doesnt like the fact that you have a family and are so inlove with your wife so she just has to ruin it by exposing the secret photos she was taking or heaven forbid she is pregnant and the DNA says its 99.9% that he/she is your husband’s child

Something which started off as innocent such as flirting could lead to bad endings

Is that office romance worth it because in the end the truth will eventually come out and ruin not only your reputation, possibly your marriage or better yet your career…….heaven forbid your life because there are deadly diseases that you failed to think for that during your moment of lust

But hey its a selfish decision you decided to take and now you will have to live with it taking down innocent people who had nothing to do with your moment of “fun”.

Precious lives

Children are meant to be loved and taken care of

At some point we all were a kid who either got that and sadly some didnt

Nonetheless we have all heard slogans such as children are meant to be seen and not harmed (or something like that)…… or save our children

I am sure there are more slogans to that effect and yet we still wake up to such stories

At what point are we as society are we going to stand up and fight to protect our children

Waking up to news that school kids were involved in a car accident on their way to school because of a taxi drive who couldn’t wait for a couple minutes for the green light then proceed with caution

The way the school transport got so smashed, one cant even expect to have any survivors

Imagine if there were 2 kids from one family who were involved in the accident

Imagine if one of those kids were an only child to a family who struggled to conceive

No one can ever predict when an accident will happen but we sure as hell can be cautious on the road so as to avoid causing one

Drivers who transport kids to school do you realise that you are carrying precious lives whom we would love to see grow

Do you realise how little time that child has had on this earth and has yet to experience life as it

Do you realise that you either taking away a child who could one day come up with a cure for AIDS that has yet to be found……

Handle with care…….

Those kids lives are worth it too…….

Is it……..love🤷‍♀️

I feel like I am a teenager who has fallen in love for the very first time

I am smilling to myself and he is constantly on my mind

At times I have to remind myself that I am at work and need to focus but then my mind will start to wonder and I end up thinking about him

He makes me want to spoil him and just to take care of him and be all cuddly and mushy with him……..

When he gets shy when I compliment him about his sweet side its just as cute as him and sexy as him

I want him, I am interested in him the whole damn day………

At times I ask myself is it really me experiencing this

This is what other females go through and not me……..well now its me too

Can I stop smilling to myself…….no I cant☺️

Everytime I hear his voice I just melt and most of the time I wont even hear what he says and have to call him back to repeat everything……..shame he will have to bare with me

I day-dream about him the whole damn day

The wishes and hopes that our relationship will grow stronger

The dreams that we can extend our little circle to possible 3 people…….as in having a child with him

I am even ready with the name should that day ever come

Is it normal to love a person so much…….or am over-doing it

Oh hell……who cares, I’m inlove😍😍😍😍😍

When it ends…….

When you marry into a particular family/culture I think its fair to say you have to follow the rules that that particular family follows…….

Once you start disrespcting the elders of that family by blatanly not following simple rules such as dressing in a particular attire and not addressing them how you were taught, then its safe to say that you no longer want to be married

It once again goes back to what I had said about people nowadays getting married for the wrong reasons

Why not leave when you no longer want to be married, instead of disrespecting the same people you had requested to come to your family to come and pay for your dowry

They came as you had requested and gave you what your family had asked for and now this is the Thank You they get….

As much as a union such as a marriage is between two people, in our culture its about two families coming together and not just the two people who are getting married

It becomes even worse when you drag the name that you are married into through the mud and do things that wives shouldnt be doing and getting caught on numerous occassions

Speak to your elders and tell them you are no longer happy and you want out so that they can follow the necessary procedure without any party being bitter (long shot though)

Society will judge you when you stay in an unhappy marriage, and then you start acting out by sleeping around etc……..

They will judge you when you leave your marriage, as being unable to hold a marriage but hey guess what its your life

If you decide to leave then just ensure you do it in a proper manner that wont be disrespectful to the parties involved especially your elders

They were there for you when you needed them and wanted this union and they delivered and you were happy

Now find a better way of exiting and be happy with your decision because it will leave with you for the rest of your life………

Where did it go wrong…..

A number of us, I will include myself in this too as I too am a victim, have been hurt by a person whom we have given our heart to at point in our lives and some on more occassions than one

Some have gone to the extent of not having a heart to love anymore or just go around hurting innocent people simply because they have been hurt by someone they had trusted in the past………for what good reason?????

Now you have gone through the rampage of hurting innocent people and some not so innocent to the extent that when a real person who has come to love you……you go and do the same

Others have gone the route of just not dating anymore simply because they just dont trust……..what kind of life is that???? Pain-free I guess

Have we as humanity lost it so much to the extent that when good things come along we are just too blind to see it

Or have we gotten so used to this pattern of hurting people who are not deserving of it so much that its hard to unlearn……..

Its sad but hey thats just my observation and how I wish I had a solution……..

Give praise to an awesome dad

There are days where i sit and look back at my life and feel i need to give praise to a person who always instilled in me to not give up. A person who who encouraged me on a daily basis where i felt i was useless because my so called friends and people who i thought loved me told me so.

Imagine being a female sorrounded by males and not a single female to encourage youand teach you the ways of life. Where at times you learn from the people around you as to how you should carry yourself or what brands to use for girly products because you simply dont have anyone. I remember once not knowing what sanitary towels where or how to use them. I can remember being handed these towels by my father and i had to sit and read the instructions as to how to place it on my panties and not being sure whether it was on the right way round. I was too embarassed to ask my father because he was a man and thought he wouldnt know but little did i know.

I never felt that i never had a mother be ause i was lucky enough to have a father who was both a father and a mother to me. He encouraged me on a daily basis to become the person that i want to be. I am unique and should not want to be anyone but me. He is always telling me of all the strenghts whenever i was down and started believing that i was useless. He never gave up on me and believe he never will.

I nearly gave up on school and was ready to earn and settle for minimum wage because i felt i was wasting my dad’s money who never gave up on me and told me to go back and register. He believed in me when i had lost faith in myself. He is always my cheer-leader no matter what and never complains.

Today i can sit say i have a good job, living a nice life and continuing to believe in myself because i had a father who refused to stop believing in me. I love and appreciate all he had done for my brothers and me. I dont think i can ever praise him enough but i know he knows how much i appreciate him. Ndiyabulela kakhulu Dontsa Mtungwa noDludlu noDlabathu for all you have done for me…………