The determination of a mother who has mouths to feed is amazing
I remember having a conversation with a cleaner who works for my dad explaining to me how she actually met my dad
She says she had just lost a job she had gotten 3 weeks ago because of a lady who was just never happy with anything she did
She would clean her whole house but she would find something to complain about every time she was there to clean
Eventually she decided to quit because she felt heavy hearten every time she had to go there
Also the travelling she had to do in order to get there was very costly from the amount she was getting paid
Making that decision to quit that job was hard as she still had 6 mouths to feed including hers
She had left her abusive husband and moved back home and had to start from scratch
So she was all alone in this and her kids were far too young to even assist her
So she decided she needs to find another job
She woke up one morning and bought 5 sweets which she would eat when she got hungry
Where was she going………
To go and look for a domestic job where a number of ladies would go and stand
They normally congregate outside this restaurant and wait for someone to come and offer them work
As she was sitting there, a man (my dad) in a white pick-up truck approached them
As the ladies ran up to my dad in an attempt to get selected, she didn’t move and just sat there
My dad then approached her and asked her if she spoke Xhosa
She said yes and my dad said okay lets go
As they were on their way the lady thought to herself……. “this man probably has a wife who is going to be so controlling and will be telling me I am not cleaning properly”
Eventually they arrived at my house and she was welcomed by my younger brother
It was his duty to show her round and how to operate things such as the vacuum cleaner and the washing machine etc
I was staying at school at the time hence the duty fell upon him
As my brother was showing her, she could not help laughing at some of the ridiculous things my brother was telling her she had to do and how to do them
She then looked around and noticed that there was no mother figure except pictures of a young girl (that would be me)
She did such an amazing job to the extent that my dad then said she must come back again next weekend
She was so happy she decided to focusing on her next project
With the little money she was earning she decided she would take 20% of that and save it
She continued saving this amount for about 5 months
She then decided to become a loan shark while she continued working for my dad
With the income she was making, she managed to put food on her table
Ensured that her kids have clothes and all of them are able to go to school
She didn’t just stop there, she decided to start selling food
She went and bought raw meat, cooked it and woke up every morning at 3 AM to prepare to go to the taxi rank and start selling
She did that on weekdays and on Saturdays she was at my house cleaning our house
Business is going so well, she has had to teach her daughters to assist her with selling food when she either has another engagement or when she is at my house cleaning
I was so proud of her when she told me that her next goal is to get a license so that she can buy a car
She would drive this car to make deliveries as that’s a struggle for her at the moment
We then reminisced about the time she could not buy clothes for her kids
The pain she endured when it was Christmas and she had to watch her neighbor’s children getting new clothes and toys
And she knew she could not afford to buy any for her kids
That’s all in the past now
She is still as humble and grateful as she was since the day I had met her
She has not only become a role model to me but also a mother that I have not had in years
She is such an amazing person and I am so proud of her and I make sure to tell her that every opportunity I get